Living with Fibromyalgia is hard enough without adding stupid people to the equation. One of my biggest pet peeves is when people ask me how I am and don't bother to really listen when I respond. Why did you even ask in the first place if you really don't give a shit?? 9 time out of 10 these same people are simply starting a conversation so that they can complain to me about their problems. Now don't get me wrong, if you have me as a friend I am the best friend you will have. I will take time any time day or night to listen and talk and commiserate if that's what you need. But I would love to know why it is that I don't seem to deserve the same in return??
I know a lot of people don't quite understand the full scope of what it means to have Fibromyalgia so I try not to take offense when someone says "I know what you mean" or "I know how you feel". If you don't have Fibro, then believe me and hear me clearly when I say you most definitely do NOT know what I mean or know how I feel.
I have not had a pain free day in 15 years. Stop and think about that for a minute. I have "better" days and I have "worse" days. I do not have completely pain free days. Just because you see me doing something for my kids, or keeping my house clean, or GOD FORBID doing something for MYSELF does not mean I'm "better" or that I'm faking this whole thing to get attention. It means I have to continue to live my life and be a mom and an active member of my family.
AND just because my house work doesn't get done for a day or 2 doesn't mean i'm lazy or a bad mom either. It means I'm having a bad day and still trying to do the best I can.
So the next time you want to sit and have a conversation with me, or with anyone who has Fibro or another chronic pain condition, stop and think a second before sending that first message or opening your mouth to speak. Just saying.